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Why Setting Boundaries Doesn’t Mean You’ve Stopped Loving Them

Sis, let’s talk about that tug-of-war between your heart and your peace. You know, that voice that says, “If I set this boundary, they’ll think I don’t care.” Or the guilt that creeps in when you finally start saying no to things that once drained you. Chile, let’s make this clear right now — love and boundaries are not enemies. In fact, they walk hand in hand. Boundaries Are an Extension of Love When you set a boundary, you’re not pushing people away — you’re inviting them to love you correctly. Real love thrives in clarity, not confusion. It flourishes when expectations are known, not guessed. Boundaries are your way of saying, “I want this relationship to last, but it can’t survive like this.” Love without boundaries is chaos. It’s like trying to pour water into a bucket full of holes — no matter how much you give, it’ll never be enough. You’re not wrong for protecting your heart, your time, or your energy. You’re simply honoring what God placed inside you to steward well. Y...

How to Heal from Church Hurt Without Losing Your Faith

When the Church Wounds You Chile, let’s talk about something that cuts deep but deserves to be addressed with care — church hurt. That sting that comes when the very place meant to shelter your soul becomes the source of your pain. Maybe you’ve been judged, silenced, or shamed for simply being who God made you to be. Maybe you were told your voice was too loud, your clothes too worldly, your calling too bold. Whatever your story, I see you. And I know how confusing it feels to love God deeply yet flinch at the thought of stepping back into a sanctuary. Healing from church hurt isn’t about walking away from God — it’s about walking closer to Him, without the noise, manipulation, or man-made rules. It’s peeling back layers of religion so you can reconnect with relationship. Because God was never the one who hurt you, Love. People did. Imperfect, insecure, power-hungry people who confused control with conviction. Step One: Acknowledge the Pain Pretending it didn’t happen doesn’t make ...